[O] Coaching Tips & Activities

Coaching tips & activities


Skill 4 Challenge – Skill 5 Inspire – Skill 6 Allow and create space – Skill 7 Relax and keep your sense of humour

Skill 4: Challenge

• To cross boundaries
• To break through the own limits
• To search and make use of resources
• To work on the inner strength
• To improve powers of intuition
• To shift from the personal level (‘I can’t do that’) to the behavioral level (‘How can I deal with that?)
• To develop greater self-confidence
• To be more courageous
• To extend spheres of responsibility
• To grow in the ability to respond

What are the obstacles and obstructions?
• Keep saying ‘You can do it’ is experienced as weak
• Being therapeutic
• Focus on discouragement, impossibilities, obstructions
• Only support (this is not enough to move forward)

• Show interest by using non-verbal communication
• Refer to a successful analogue situation
• Name those qualities that are visible
• Pull forward insights
• Address skills to the other
• Give ideas of the coachee a central place
• Stimulate the ability to respond
• Explore together the effect of doing things differently
• Express your own feelings confronting the coachee
• Challenge & support and confirm & be connected

Skill 5: Inspire

• Focus on possibilities and not on difficulties
• Broaden horizons and perspective
• Make a start to view new developments or approaches
• Explore new ways of thinking
• Use inspiring advice
• Explore inspirational experiences
• Work on a flow or a drive
• Coach towards innovation and creativity
• Appeal to enthusiasm
• Do not judge ideas but explore
• Reset frequently the frame

What are the obstacles and obstructions?

• A ‘follow-my-leader’ behavior or copy cat
• Being to general, not making it concrete
• Too much focus on the problem
• A narrow perspective
• A sense of judging
• The coachee takes in a ‘wait and see’-attitude

• Use resources of enthusiasm and energy
• Be aware of and try to overcome unpleasant feelings
• Reframe and reset the frame frequently
• Coach to innovation and creativity
• Encourage the coachee to continue put in front new and unusual ideas
• Bring in several ideas on the same time
• Discuss on the ideas of the coach

Skill 6: Allow and give space

• To deal in a constructive way with worry, doubt and concern
• To allow feelings to be there
• To recognize feelings as a normal part of life
• To encourage the coachee to give his feelings the necessary space
• To recognize feelings as an important aspect of learning
• To stimulate a constructive conflict
• To explore feelings of fear and uncertainty
• To fear means to courage
• To recognize anger and give it a proper place
• From ‘have to’ to ‘want to’

What are the obstacles and obstructions?
• We fear feelings of disappointment, fear, anger, resistance, indifference and do not dare to talk about them.
• Only to talk about negative feelings
• Fear of never reach our final destination
• To talk only about feelings without connecting to the goal
• A therapeutic approach
• To ignore sentiment in the hope that they might simply go away
• The ‘tea and sympathy’ approach with: express this
• Anger that is not allowed lead to aggression

• Feelings are neither positive nor negative
• Feelings want to be felt and experienced: allow them and explore them
• Name the feelings you see that you see with the coachee
• Express your own feelings
• Fear and uncertainty, anger, opposition and resistance are the basic ones but difficult to deal with: express this
• Anger that is not allowed lead to aggression

Skill 7: Relax and keep your sense of humour

• encourage encouragement
• Make use of your breath to create space and inner relaxation
• Focus your curiosity and your interest on strengths, on what goes well
• Build further on the foundations
• Do not underestimate the effect on another person
• Increase lightness into the conversation

What are the obstacles and obstructions?

• The coachee is blocked
• A tense situation

• Keep your head cool
• Breath in a deep and relaxed way
• Look at someone in an appreciative and supportive manner
• When we laugh, we can learn
• This skill is a silent skill, a skill without words


For your better understanding of dealing with real life challenges through a series of activities on working with groups below you can find a series of Hypothetical Scenarios that will help you simulate the use of an activity as a way to facilitate progress.

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